We seem to have an inner setting that determines how much love, success and creativity we allow ourselves to enjoy. This setting usually gets programmed in early childhood. Once it has been programmed it holds us back from enjoying all the love, financial abundance and creativity that we could enjoy instead.
The root cause for these limitations can be several fears and false beliefs we have about ourselves. We take them as real until we shine awareness on them. Then we have the power to dissolve them and enjoy life from a different perspective.
The Problem Of Feeling Fundamentally Flawed.
The belief that one is fundamentally flawed in some way has n immense impact to optimal joy. It also brings with it a related fear that if you did fully use your unique gifts, you might fail. This belief tells you to play it safe and stay small. This way, if you fail, you fail small and in your old comfort zone.
What About Disloyalty And Abandonment.
These problems embody the feeling that we cannot expand to our full success because it would cause us to end up alone, be disloyal to our roots and leave behind people from our past.
Here are two questions that can help you discover if you have this limitation:
- Did I break my family’s spoken or unspoken rules to get where I am?
- Even though I am successful, did I fail to meet the expectations my parents had of me?
If you answered yes to either of those questions, you’re likely to feel guilty as you become more successful. The guilt you feel makes you put on the brakes, holding you back from ultimate success and keeping you from enjoying the success you already have.
The Crime of Outshining.
The unconscious mantra of the outshining goes like this: “I must not achieve my full success, because if I do I will outshine someone and make him or her look or feel bad”.
Here are some examples of how we sabotage ourselves:
* Worrying is usually a sign that we’re limiting ourselves. Worry is just noise, designed by our unconscious to keep us away from what we want and deserve. When we find ourselves worrying, there is something positive trying to break through. Our worry-thoughts, particularly if we find ourselves repeating the same ones over and over, are a flag waving at us.
* Another way we limit ourselves is through blame and criticism. When we blame someone or something, we’re often doing it because we’ve hit our limits and are trying to stop the flow of positive energy. Self-blame is part of the same pattern as blaming someone else.
* Arguments also bring you down when you’ve hit your limits. If you learn to see arguments as symptoms, you can move beyond them.
* Finally, when things are going well, some of us have a pattern that is limiting as well. We get sick.
Now that you understand the basics of these limitations and its root structure, you are equipped with the context you need to identify when and how you limit yourself and others and how to transcend and utilize the full power of your gifts. Understanding yourself, your habits and patterns are the best way to liberate you of unwanted experiences and conditions.
Inspired by an article from Gay Hendricks.
With all my love,